How to Pray

“If only God would tell me what I should do next?!” These are the words of every Christian (and some non-Christians) who are bewildered about the next step or stage of life. Single moms ask this question. Teenagers ask this question about choosing a major and college. Parents ask this question when frustrated with their parenting. Men and women ask this question when facing

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Motivations: Why We Pray?

A holy man sat on a prominent street corner of his city. He covered himself with ashes as a sign of humility. When tourists asked permission to take his picture, the mystic would rearrange his ashes to give the best image of destitution and humility. Many times, our practice of Christianity amounts to nothing more than rearranging religious “ashes” to impress one another. The

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When You Don’t Want To Pray

Sometimes, we Christians don’t feel like praying. Jesus addresses this in Luke 18. This  parable starts in a city with an unscrupulous judge. This judge has no morals, no ethics and no sense of justice. He does not fear God nor respect man.  A widow is taken advantage of and the judge refuses to help. Maybe he knew she didn’t have the resources to bribe

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Passing the Mantle

A Father’s Charge to His Son Passing the mantle is an expression of extending trust to the one who follows.  For instance, when a king or queen inherits the throne they receive the crown from their predecessor. That crown is a symbol of the authority and trust placed in the monarch. Men, we have a figurative mantle to pass on to our children as

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Walking in the Spirit

A natural question for Christians to ask is what does it mean that we are to be Spirit-filled? In Ephesians 5:18, Paul teaches us that we need the Spirit’s influence so that we might bear more fruit of the Spirit. The Spirit: baptizes us into the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:13), seals us (Ephesians 1:13), reconciles us (Ephesians 2:16), and we are given the Spirit as

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#MeToo and the Bible


#MeToo exploded on the scene in October 2017 when actresses encouraged people to tell their sexual assault stories. Men like Harvey Weinstein, Dr. Larry Nasser and most recently, Bill Cosby, had their hidden lives exposed. A month later, #ChurchToo came into use as victims of sexual assault within the church stood together. These movements are good for our culture and the church. While Paul didn’t originate the #MeToo movement, these common grace Bible principles are found here in Ephesians 5.

Christian purity is determined to walk in love.  (Ephesians 5:1-7)

How would you attempt to illustrate the opposite of Christ’s love? Paul does so in Ephesians 5: 1-3, by giving three categories opposite of love. These are 1) Sexual immorality 2) impurity, any form of law-breaking behavior (external)  and 3) covetousness, all internal desires.

1 – Sexual immorality is the opposite of love.

Paul uses the phrase “sexual immorality” twenty-five times in the New Testament. It’s a catch all phrase that includes any form of sexual activity outside the bounds of covenantal heterosexual sex: extramarital, premarital, prostitution, even pornography. Whether consensual or not, Christians do not engage in sexual immorality. We are governed by an authority higher than our own desires. God’s people are governed by God’s Word.

2 – Impure speech is the opposite of love.

Impure speech or filthiness is shameful/disgraceful speech. Foolish talk detracts from serious conversation about the things of God. These are individuals who turn a conversation intending to direct attention away from Christian concerns. Crude joking is not bathroom humor, but sarcastic ridicule. Speech intended to cut down a person by making others laugh; speech in a school bus or break room banter disguised as a joke, but the motives are intended to harm a reputation. Ephesians 5: 5,7 states that we, literally, do not participate in their sin.

3 –  Covetousness is idolatry. Idolaters do not inherit God’s kingdom.

Idolatry is self worship disguised by an object or desire that is the opposite of love.  Paul is trying to teach us that, when these desires become unsatisfied longings over time, we can become unthankful and pursue those desires in sinful ways. When these desires, whether sexual desires acted on, desires that in and of themselves may be fine, or speech intended to harm others characterize our lives, we become idolaters.

The Christian church hones in on the sexually immoral, but Paul’s emphasis is all three. Sexual immorality, impure speech and covetousness. People who are unrepentant in these three areas will not inherit the kingdom of God. Genuine repentance is more than saying “sorry” when you get caught. Repentance accepts the consequences of sin with humility. Repentance attempts to clear our name through greater accountability.

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The Church: A Call to Loving Unity

How’s church going for you? Is it too cool or would you prefer it warmer? Did you get a parking spot close to the building? What about the worship music? Was it too contemporary or too traditional? Grace Life, I lead with this to show you how church can so easily become about us and our preferences, which left unchecked become seeds of disunity. In contrast, Christian unity is cultivated by love, developed by God-given

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Christian Growth is a Process

Yesterday, I preached a message on Christians growth. Here are two charts that I used that some folks found helpful. Make sure to click the link below for the sermon itself. Christian growth or change starts in the mind. We call it the replacement principle. Don’t just stop sinful habits, replace them with godly actions.       If we see Christian growth as

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Deadly Ingredients of Suffering

The following five observations taken from Job 22-31 are ways that we can begin to think as we become embittered at the suffering we experience. Job 22-31 is the third cycle of conversation between Job and his three friends and gives a window into the bitterness of suffering that Job experienced. Here are five ingredients that erode a believer’s soul: We assume that God

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Divine Sovereignty

Charles Spurgeon on Diving Sovereignty “Is it not lawful for me to do what I will with mine own?—Matthew 20:15 The householder says, “Is it not lawful for me to do what I will with mine own?” and even so does the God of heaven and earth ask this question of you this morning. “Is it not lawful for me to do what I

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